Dear O:
Did you see the man shooting the lawyer as he was trying to hide behind a tree that was much too small? Has News coverage gone over the edge or are people losing it and why do you think?
Yes and No in that what needs to be shown is not and what needs not be shown is shown repeatedly. Things are going to get worse before they get better. These economic times will cause more violence and crimes than we’ve ever seen before. Notice bank robberies are at an all time high, people stealing ATM machines, etc... ‘Tis the season to be careful, watchful and safe be aware of your surroundings!
Dear O:
Your column has not mentioned Kobe Bryant since his Preliminary hearing? Has the buzz stopped?
No ma’am, it has NOT. It’s very buzzing, I have many emails, comments and vents about the case, but I won’t address it again in this column until after the next hearing. Then I will run some of the comments in the column again. OK?
Dear O:
I read in one of your columns that you are not married, what are your plans for the holidays?
No I’m not married nor do I, at this time, have a significant other. I plan to spend my Thanksgiving holidays helping feed the hungry before sitting down to my personal celebration. For Christmas, if I’m around, I’ll attend holiday parties; perhaps sponsor my end of year party for family and friends. Perhaps I’ll take my daughter someplace special after fulfilling my charity obligations. The rest I’ll play by ear. I know how to spend time with me and enjoy it.
Dear O:
I read your column diligently but it doesn’t change often enough, your answers are right on time and you don’t dance around the issues you answer direct. Thanks for not saying what people want to hear but saying it like it is. As long as you keep writing this column, I’ll keep reading. You should try syndication. Kudos!
Thanks! When people are going through they need to hear the truth and not just hear something that is going to make them feel good or tell them what they want to hear and not what they need to hear. I plan on going into syndication but it’s time has not yet arrived.
Dear O:
I met a real gentleman. We’ve known each other for over 3 years, he has been married for 10 and we both respect that, we’re only friends but I could love this man because he is so nice. He says he will never mess up his home even though he is not as happy as he could be and he’s constantly reminding me he is married. We’ve never kissed or held hands. I’ve invited him to my home but he says he wouldn’t come. He doesn’t even want to know where I live. The most we’ve done is lunch. I like him and want to spend more time, even intimate time with him but he never makes advances to that end. Am I crazy for feeling this way?
YES with a capital “Y”! You’ve met a very nice respectful man who was honest and upfront with you; has treated you like a real friend. Don’t fool yourself into believing it can be anything more. Intimacy is not an option; don’t test the waters by putting yourself out there like that. Find someone who is available and can give you the time and attention you desire and deserve. This is where we get into trouble; the man has told you he will not mess up his home which also includes his wife. Don’t fool yourself into believing you can take him from him from her because it will only spell heartbreak for you. It hasn’t taken him 10 years to decide he is not totally happy, he is still there and he’s not going anywhere. Appreciate your friendship and you won’t be sorry for a failed relationship.
Dear O:
My boyfriend and I broke up after 6 years; we had great times especially over the holidays. Now that we’re no longer together I realize how much I loved him without him I’m miserable.
Girlfriend, you didn’t say why you broke up but that’s okay. The reality is he is gone and you have to let go and move on. So many people are prematurely stressing over the holidays that we may or may not live to see. Live for today and pray that if we see tomorrow it will be fulfilled. You can still have a great time over the holidays.
Dear O:
It’s almost Christmas and I’m getting depressed because I’m not going to have much money to buy gifts for the people I want to buy for. I’ve balanced my checkbook and counted my checks through the end of the year and there is just not enough money.
Count your blessings dear heart, at least you have checks to count through the end of the year, there are many who don’t. It’s not even Thanksgiving yet and you’re stressing about Christmas. What a waste! You’re setting yourself up to be depressed through the holidays. Thus, there are many in the same situation; it’s a sign of these economic times. I suggest you give love at Christmas; it’s the gift that keeps on giving. My Company buys toys throughout the year and my staff and I personally take them the hospital’s pediatric ward and visit each kid and leave a toy. O’RonJaKi has done this for the past 6 years. It makes me feel good and it helps us enjoy my holidays more. The toys that are left we donate to the Ronald McDonald House. It’s a great feeling of fulfillment. Usually the people we buy for at Christmas don’t need what we give them. However, there are people in need of everything. Use those hands to reach out and touch some elderly person sitting alone in a nursing home with no family or friends. Use those eyes to read them a verse from the Bible. So don’t be depressed. Remember you get by giving.
Dear O:
Love your website but I’m still waiting on your new book(s), what is the status and when will it be available? Have you started the sequel to Devastating Rumors?
From my Notorious Illusions and When the Music Stops are ready, I got busy editing and publishing books for others and it has taken time away from mine. However, I promise you when I’m done with theirs I won’t take on anymore work until mine are unveiled. Yes, I’m halfway through the sequel, you will be surprised. Thanks for asking.
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